Kafka somewhere says that impatience is a form of laziness. I would add that it’s also a form of egotism, a presumption that our clocks ought to govern the world. We’re likely born impatient, ever awaiting the next feeding. When young, we mistake patience for acquiescence, a shameful surrender. Only later do we reluctantly accept, for instance, pain as an occasional inevitability. In short, that’s life. Dr. Johnson, who suffered a Merck Manual of physical and emotional disorders, understood. In The Rambler of July 7, 1750 he writes: “The great remedy which heaven has put in our hands is patience, by which, though we cannot lessen the torments of the body, we can in a great measure preserve the peace of the mind, and shall suffer only the natural and genuine force of an evil, without heightening its acrimony, or prolonging its effects.”
Much consolation in those
words. Kay Ryan at the conclusion of her poem “Patience” (Say Uncle,
2000), makes a similar point:
“Patience is
wider than one
once envisioned,
with ribbons
of rivers
and distant
ranges and
tasks undertaken
and finished
with modest
relish by
natives in their
native dress.
Who would
have guessed
it possible
that waiting
is sustainable—
a place with
its own harvests.
Or that in
time's fullness
the diamonds
of patience
couldn't be
distinguished
from the genuine
in brilliance
or hardness.”
Patience doesn’t make the
pain go away, but with time and practice it can’t “be / distinguished/ from the
genuine.” It’s also cheaper and less likely to result in addiction. Another man
who knew sickness and pain throughout his life was Montaigne who, in his essay “Children
and Fathers,” recalled that Pericles wore amulets to assuage his illness.
Montaigne calls them “vain things” and continues:
“I do not say that I may
not be carried away someday by that ridiculous notion of committing my life and
my health to the mercy and government of the doctors. I may fall into such a
madness; I cannot answer for my future firmness. But then, too, if someone
inquires of me how I am, I can say to him, like Pericles, ‘You may judge by
this,’ showing my hand filled with six drams of opiate. It will be a very
evident sign of a violent sickness. My judgment will be extraordinarily
unhinged. If impatience and fear win this victory over me, people may infer
from it a very fierce fever in my soul.”
[The Montaigne passage is
from the translation of The Complete Essays of Montaigne by Donald Frame
(Stanford University Press, 1957).]