“As I tell my patients, much to their surprise — for it is not a fashionable view — it is far more important to be able to lose yourself than to find yourself.”
Precisely. The last thing most of us should be thinking about is ourselves. The self-directed and self-seeking are a nasty lot. A.M. Juster has an epigrammatic couplet titled “Your Midlife Crisis”:
“You found yourself—but at an awful cost.
We liked you better when you were lost.”