Fifty years
ago this June I graduated from high school. Even then I wasn’t particularly
impressed with the accomplishment, though my father was a high-school dropout.
Now some enterprising classmates have organized a reunion at a supper club in
Cleveland on September 12, and I bought my ticket. Ninety others, classmates
and spouses, have thus far done likewise. I’ve been warned that reunions can be
difficult, even unpleasant. Tedium is a hazard. I have no taste for nostalgia,
especially of the Boomer variety. I do, however, have memories that have had
half a century to harden (or fade). Visiting the past can be like touring a museum in which
some of the paintings have been mislabeled and others have been removed from public
view. Aligning memory with reality is jarring. I find comfort in what Max
Beerbohm writes in “Lytton Strachey” (Mainly
on the Air, Heinemann, 1957):
“[There is]
a great charm in the past. Time, that sedulous artist, has been at work on it,
selecting and rejecting with great tact. The past is a work of art, free from
irrelevancies and loose ends. There are, for our vision, comparatively few
people in it, and all of them are interesting people. The dullards have all
disappeared — all but those whose dullness was so pronounced as to be in itself
for us an amusing virtue. And in the past there is so blessedly nothing for us
to worry about. Everything is settled. There's nothing to be done about it —
nothing but to contemplate it and blandly form theories about this or that
aspect of it.”
My 50th was four years ago and thoroughly enjoyable. I re met people I had forgotten and was reminded of matters I never considered. Our rural town scattered our class about and that was a source of wonder. I hope you will share your thoughts afterward. How I wish Liebling had done something like that
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